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| Our first night out dancing |
For the most part, my aversion to online dating was about pride. Simply put, I thought that I'm only slightly attractive, not too interesting and too old to subject myself to the trauma of courting on the Internet as I'm better to know in person. But there's another reason, too — it's that I'm a sap for a love story. One of my favorite parts of dating is a charming "how we met" anecdote. And I'm sorry, but there's nothing charming about Match.com, or so I thought.
So when several folks I knew admitted that they too were online dating or had met their signifigant others via online dating, I thought, " it's worth a shot". I'd never dated much and wanted to have fun, and not have anything serious as I was busy finding my own desires.
Now to create a profile that promotes my good qualities, but truthful enough to weed out the "don't even bother's".
Ugh..Electronic Self Solicitation..in short, I wrote, "I'm known for my directness, it's a curse. However, I was meant to be married as I love to make a home, and enjoy it filled with laughter,the smells of the kitchen, and a partner to share it with. Making love at one point and primal entanglements at another. I need a man with an open mind, sturdy heart, and firm hand. =) Let's do a happy hour."
It worked, I went out on a few dates, some weird, some are still friends and it was a great experience. Then one day I was notified that "Ryan97223" was interested. An email followed that said, " i like your profile and like that you don't put on aires" Yes, grammatical errors included. My first glance at his picture which was obviously taken with outstretched arm, was...toooo old. No more men over 50, I thought to myself. Been there, done that, sticking to closer to my own age. However we emailed, Facebooked and texted as he was experiencing some challenges that I too had experienced. I even texted him pics of dates I was on. Ryan, was a new friend and male confidant, though we'd never met. He invited me to meet up with him and some friends at a couple bars. I declined as I was too tired from dating. =) One evening I decided to check out a small bar near my apartment as they had a live band. I texted Ryan and asked him to meet me so I wouldn't feel pathetic and alone. He was coaching football at the time and had a prior engagement at another coaches house. But he might be able to meet me later. I begged...he said it'll be a bit but he'll come. As I sat at the bar, being oogled by the new caterer for the bar, in walked my knight wearing an orange hoody and a shy grin, and guess what? He was my age and handsome....and our story begins...
Our first night out was a couple weeks later, after that we quickly knew we were in love, despite our attempts to say, "this can't be", we knew we were soul-mates.
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| Almost a year later |
